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E-Question: In a Relationship,
What Makes you Feel Strong and What Makes You Feel Weak? E-Q Responses: The sense of vulnerability in really liking someone makes me feel weak because they can change their mind any time. The sense of acknowledgement and being understood makes me feel like a real prize winner. After all, don't we all want to be seen?
What makes me feel strong in a relationship is to not depend on it as my primary source of oxygen. A person needs more than his/her "one and only" in order to be healthy and open to the world. It's wonderful when both of you open to the world together, but have personal interests and friends as well, in a really trusting, energized relationship. What has made me feel weak in the past is when I am so madly in love that I lack a healthy distance -- lack the capacity to be a real communicator, a strong partner, firm in my own worth. It's easy to get drunk on a relationship, almost sick with passion for a person. It prevents the sanity required for living in the real world. It's thrilling, but it's too vulnerable. At this point I don't expect to ever find my soulmate, so I feel lucky to have a loving, good-fellowship relationship and be fully connected to the world.
I feel strong in a relationship when I feel a sense of unconditional love. I feel weak in a relationship when I am not taking care of my needs and self doubt starts to creep in.
It's been so long since I've had a relationship, let's see if I can remember! What made me feel strong was knowing I was loved and appreciated. What makes me weak... losing control... like when my heart rules my head.
It makes me feel strong to be working on a shared vision and having quiet, communicative time. It makes me feel weak to feel alone or to feel dominated.
"Strong" and "weak" sound like confrontational terms in a zero-sum game, without much meaning between loving partners. In an ideal relationship your weakness simply allows the one who loves you to have more control. Is that so bad?
Just knowing what is acceptable to me and sticking to it makes me feel strong, in control of MYSELF. I feel weak when I give in to others about important issues. Compromise is not always acceptable.
Feel strong - being on similar "wavelengths"; feeling interest in me when I feel interest in her; enjoys my sense of humor; when "one-upmanship" is not an issue; where having "a good time" does not involve huge amounts of money nor great effort; tolerant of my weaknesses.
Feel weak - arguing over "everything"; being ridiculed; not feeling "interest" in me when I feel interest in her; game playing; she's too busy to really have a relationship with me; being asexual; if she's more intelligent than I; she's not psychologically attuned and sensative; she's into heavy effort physical activity; she's unable to relax and just "be"; when "baggage" gets in the way of authentic relating; when addictions are major and quite illegal or unhealthy.
A person would feel stong when two people are working together to reach each ones goals. A person would feel weak when one is pulling one way and the other in another direction.
I feel strong when I am loved wholeheartedly, for who I am. not who someone wants me to be. I feel weak if my wants/desires are not recognized.
I've always felt strong in relationships, where it appeared as though my partner really loved me. I've always felt weak in relationships, where it was not always easy to tell whether they really cared about me, or not.
feel strong....control. feel weak....submisson
I feel the strongest when I know that we both feel the same way about the importance of family. I feel the weakest when my mother in law adds her 25 cents worth her knowledge, or whatever she decides is her opinion of the moment.. I feel strong when we are both in control and weak if only one is on control. I think relationships are contolled by two people and never should one control or be controlled. I felt the strongest at my Son and My daughters' weddings -- both Times! I had the "I pulled this off" feeling , or "job well done"? I feel my weakest at any funeral. Funny, that's when a strong person is needed most too! But, its not I I feel strong when I know my thoughts and feelings matter. I feel weak when I realize that the other person doesn't care what I think. Well I don't know if this is some kind of a riddle. It doesn't seem like one so I will just give my feelings which are that having someone who has your best interests at heart and always has your "back covered" makes you feel stronger; but on the other hand, in my case anyway, since I don't work out side of the home, and I am not contributing financially, I feel very dependent on my husband and that makes me feel weak I think that the fact we have such open and honest communication makes us strong in our relationship.The distance (geographically) is the one weakness. Unconditional love and great communication with my partner makes me feel strong. Not working outside the home and helping out financially makes me feel very weak. What makes me feel strong is the support and understanding a partner/spouse
offers. Along with the security and honesty being apparent. What can make
me feel weak is when I feel doubtful about the relationship itself, meaning,
if there are repeated issues and secrets between the two of us. I feel stong when my heart is full that my Man and I are truly in love
with each other. Sharing understanding for each other.Feeling confidence
& Trust. The feeling of oneness Strong feelings come from knowing that you have someone behind you to
lean on, to hang out with, to realize that they are there at all times
-- that is what makes it good. Feeling weak is when I'm unsure of what
is going on, knowing that there is something just under the surface that
makes you unsure of them, and in turn unsure of you. |