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E-Question: Dr. Phil says, know who you are be genuine. I say, get out and get active. What do you say?
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E-Q Responses:

Trust your heart but use your head.

Get out there and be active" and remember to "know who you are" and always, always, "be genuine." And the GOOD, old cliché, "be true to yourself." Or, we could also go with its source, the Shakespearean advice: "To thine own self be true." But you definitely have to get out there and meet people. Don't wait for opportunity to come knocking at your door; get out there and meet opportunity half way.

Personally, I agree with Dr Phil because if you know who you are then you will decide on your course.....If one simply gets out and becomes active, they could get sucked into a vacuum of activities such as bar hopping, etc. and become lost in who they really are just so they are no longer lonely.....then they settle.....one should never simply settle.

Dr. Phil's a pretty smart, wise man. I agree that one must know themselves first and be true to who they are. Otherwise it will be one tragedy after another, if one is looking for a serious relationship.

To settle is one of the worse things one can do, I've done in the past........and it ended up in divorces. Sad to say but true nevertheless.

Dr. Phil is one smart man and he knows what he's talking about. He's helped a lot of people and I believe in him. Of course if you lose track of who you are, then you will end up with a very bad relationship. You can't pick and chose just anyone for the sake of not being alone. So far, I've done pretty good and I don't intend in getting into any serious realtionship. I love living alone with no one to tell me what to do or say. I love the thought that I can go wherever I want to and I don't have to answer to anyone.

Yep, Dr Smart seems to have worked it out. Dont let anyone change you unless they are changes that make you feel better about yourself. I know I've changed since I met someone but the changes he helped me make have made me happier. Life has made some other changes which at moment I don't see as being beneficial, but which my close friends were telling me last night probably will because they've made me a stronger person...still got a lot of changes I would make but I'm working on them and accepting this is me for now
take me or leave me! I think it's nice to have one's own space and not have anyone telling you what to do but sometimes think it would be nice to have someone help you decide what to do. For now my life has decided for me what my priorities should be and I wouldn't want to be the type of person who would put anything else before them, but some day things will change and I might want to settle down with someone...or maybe I won't....either way I honestly believe it won't be my decision what my future holds just mine to make the best of the choices I am given and appreciate the friends, family, blessings and "challenges" I sometimes mistake for problems when life throws them at me.

I am blessed. I have had a fantastic life, still do...I met my soul mate when I was 18, and from then on it had been fantastic...I grew up with such a great self-esteem, I had great parents who taught me to become independent so that if I met someone it would just be a bonus in my life not something to depend on, and that made it easier for me when I married my soul mate. I continued being independent and he did too. We enjoyed each other much
more and learned from each other too. Since he died I miss him so much...but because I believe in myself and care for me, that I am moving forward being happy with our two girls and I do not mind being alone...I think I will stay that way...I have had the best and I am now happy to stay alone...I like my company and the wonderful memories I have inside me... Be happy, love yourself before you meet someone, and make sure that he loves himself too...well most men do...LOL that was a joke....If you meet someone, it is a great bonus in your life...enjoy it...Hugs!

I say, Dr. Phil is THE most overrated buffoon to ever be given a show. Oprah should be drawn and quartered for making him the poster child of psychiatry, and if I never hear his voice or see his face on TV again, or even hear somebody talking about him on TV, I'll die a happy man. In regards to advice on how to 'love smart', there would be no problems if
men were MEN, we need to quit giving away our power to women, be strong, be
confident, be decisive, be funny, stand on your own, and command a presence, do these things and you will have to fight them off with a stick!

To Love Smart
1st you must learn
To Love
with your whole heart

Never hurt the one you love. If you truly love someone, consider how your decisions (to pursue happiness, reward, gain, etc.) affects them before you take action on your own.

Two things: Get out in the mix and don't be selfish.

"Listen?" Listen for what? Moans of ecstasy! Men are visual animals and
women know it, they have it, and they know that men want it... Primordial instinct
rules!!!

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