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E-Question: What types of personalities do you think work well together?
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E-Q Responses:

I think helpers and doers and leaders and supporters are two combinations that do well together.

I don't know if I'm qualified to answer this, having been unsuccessful in finding a lifemate. But, what I have observed from the outside, are most couples that stay together, the two people who complement each other thus achieving the right balance. There needs to be enough similar interests to share time together balanced with enough indivual interests that allow the couple to remain individuals. The similarities should include some major issues, interests, or desires that drive each person. Both must be willing to bend. It seems when only one is making all the sacrifices and changes, that frustrations build up and the couple falls apart. (Whether they stay together physically, emotionally the bond has been broken.)

I believe that when a person can give and take it works very well together. If a person is low key they may need a person that is a little more out going to make a blend. The low key person helps the other person to take time out and rest. Where the higher keyed person just keeps going and doesn' t take the time to see the little things around you as they are in a hurry to accomplish everythings. So you need to have a personality that slow down the higher keyed person and to put a little spark in the lower keyed person.

My feeling is that many varieties of personality can add "spice to life" and mesh in compatible ways. What doesn't work are personality extremes; for example, "devoted" if "extremely dependent," "conscientious" if "obsessive-compulsive" and so forth. Beware of any extreme personality type!

Personalities that share common goals in life, interests, respect...and both on the same page as far as kids and committment, etc. Some people are lucky, and find that the first time around.

I think it's tough to reduce this question to a list. There are so many seemingly incompatible couples. I think as long as people respect each other's individuality and communicate then either similar or widley different personalities can be work well together.

The best thing I can think of is to respect each other differences, because there are no two people in this world that are the same, this is the best thing I do in my relationship with my wife, 2nd thing is to have a common goal to reach for,3rd thing of importance is to respect each other for what there differences are, or best qualities they have, because this goes back to the idea that there is no two people that are the same. Always think of the good qualities people have never think on the bad qualities because this well tie up a lot of your time thinking and not living.

Personalities that have alot in common - but then again enough differences to make life interesting for both people. Think the fun part is learning about each other and getting surprised when sometimes you are totally wrong about how you would expect the other person to react.

I'm not being contrary Honest...but here goes:
31 yrs of marraige.......and we are soooo oppossite.
He likes old cars.....Give me new!!!!!!!!
He hates debt........I make payments with ease.
I love a book....he wants "Action movies."
Im a neatnik...Ok he's not a total slob!
Im short....Hes tall.
I could go on and on......I'll just say....I have friends....My Man is my lover. I think whoever started this idea of the search for similiar mate caused a lot divorces. VIVA La Difference!

I believe that the personalities can be as different as fire and ice, but if they can communicate honestly with each other, they can figure out how to be together.

There are times when I am amazed that we made it all these years..and are so entirely different...There have been times when his calm personality has kept me anchored..

I always thought that people with pretty much the same personalities would get along better but I'm not sure I think that anymore. I think that in order to get along well with someone you have to each have something to offer. That way it will keep things new. I know it's not any fun to be with someone if they say "What do you want to do"and you answer "I don't care, anything that you want." That could go on all day! I think a person should be a little alike but still have their own individuality if that makes any sense.

I really don't think this has a true definitive answer do you? I have known couples where one is very passive, the other very authoritarian and they work like magic. I've seen the same thing and they both are miserable. I think not only personality plays a major role but also whether the person knows who they really are and also self esteem. I am more emotional than logical where my wife is more logical than emotional and because we both know who we are, we tend to balance each other out in that respect so we work well. I don't expect more from her nor her from me. I do feel that if you have two very very independent strong willed people there would be friction because one would always want the upper hand without compromise. Sultry and I are very passionate in how we feel and it shows when we disagree but we do weigh out each other's point and look at both sides. However, we won't compromise where we stand to pacify the other, nor will we be a brick wall when we know we are wrong.

I personally feel that both personalities require certain similarities and yet some differences.

You need a balance so that when the two personalities come together they mesh in the sense of completing one another. Neither personality should overtake the other but both be on fair ground. Of course compromises need to be made and that's in any relationship.

In my opinion, the best personality is tolerance. The ability to accept your partner's differences should help make for a happy relationship as far as I'm concerned.

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