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Long Distance Relationships
E-Question: Would you consider a long-distance relationship? If so, how far?
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E-Q Responses:

No way! My life is too busy as it is.

"Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones as the wind blows
out the candle and blows up the bonfire."

A relationship is an affair of a male (spirit, mind and body) with a female (spirit,mind and body). In a long-distance relationship the body is missing. I want a woman where nothing is missing!

Long distance relationships are very expensive and difficult to be involved in. Times apart are lonely and you turn to friends for emotional support. Loss of trust between the parties in the relationship is inevitable and usually results in failure of the relationship. I would not recommend it unless one party can move in with the other party after the first year of the relationship. In my opinion this is a little early to commit to a lifetime relationship.

I've know two long distance relationships. The first one lived about 5 hours away, and the second about 1 1/2 hours away. In both cases I would communicated frequently on line, by phone, and on the weekends we would make arrangements to see oneanother. In some respects the distance added a highened element of excitement, and anticipation to the dating ritual. At the present time I see someone who works in this area, but lives 14 hours away. I only see him on the weekend and once a month he flies home to see his grown children and maintain his house. I think for me, a long distance relationship is less confining for my lifestyle. I have a very busy business and personal life. I'm very involved with my children and enjoy many Singles' activities. To date I have not found a partner that is my mirror image, so I'm very happy sharing an evening or two on the weekend with someone who enjoys dinning out, dancing, and listening to music.

I've had them!, the "closer" ones ranging from 2-4 hours away, also 800 miles away, and the furthest was 3,000 miles away (London). There are built in challenges, but one of the reasons I've been open to it is that I am interested in relocating, though I don't know yet where I want to go. So I don't see the distance as a long-term factor. If things were to go well, I would eventually move. Having said that, I realize also that the drawback to a long distance relationship is that I don't have romance at home, here, where I live, on an ongoing basis.

Actually, my husband and I started out with a long distance relationship. He lived in Wisconsin and I lived in Tennessee. I'm not sure how long it would have lasted if I had not moved to Wisconsin after a few months but we've been together over 12 years now.

I certainly did try the long distance thing...but for me, at this stage of my life..I don;t think that would work for me. I mean, meeting someone online here is fine, as long as he isn't 9000 miles away!!! I would prefer they live at least within 5 to 6 hours from me...so we could at least have a better chance of seeing each other more often...anything over that, for me anyway..would not work. Too expensive for one thing!hahaha! I guess I have been alone for long enough..I don;t want to have to be with someone in here, and still be alone...makes absolutely no sense to me at all. It seems to work for some.

Yes without a doubt........what is distance in this day and age....you can fly, drive, take a boat, or train anywhere. Sure one of you will have to make the move if the relationship becomes serious........but if you are luckey enough to find the person that you want to share all your hopes and dreams and tomorrows with then moving would be the "small stuff".

A heart knows no boundries...if you LOVE . then Love
Full speed ahead, damn the torpedo's
Love came, Love saw, Love conqured.
So many sayings. some trite some heartfelt,,,,but the ability to love.....Oh Wow......GO GOR IT of course

I have a long distance relationship right now, we have been chatting for several months, we have met as well, there is a possiblity of us meeting again maybe for good or just to be together, but time will tell. I know one day soon we will be together for good.

My husband and I met when he came to do his practicum at the school I was teaching in. We had a whirlwind, two weeks of dating, and then he moved home. We continued to write and call for a few months and then he decided to move to where I lived to see if he could get a job. The rest is history. My daughter is getting married in two weeks. She and her fiance met in college and then continued a two year long distance relationship. It was tough, but she ended up moving to his little town and now they're getting married.
Long distance relationships aren't easy, but then no relationship is without its ups and downs. I think it's all relative. My advice to my daughter was simple: If he's the one you're meant to be with, it will work out. Relax and enjoy and let nature take its course.

It's not such a bad thing if you're both from the same country but different nationality ... whole different ball game.

I met my husband online and he was in England and I in California. We "courted" for 6 months before he ever came for a visit. I can say we have been hapily married for 2 years. So YES I would consider a long distance relationship. It gives you a chance to really talk and get to know someone without the pressure of intimacy. I can say I knew my husband so well before I ever got to actually physically touch him.

If I really cared alot for that person the distance wouldn't matter. Over time though one of us would have to relocate. It wouldn't be a way I would prefer to live for an extended period of time.

Friends at a distance are best kept as friends.

Never thought I would ever be involved with someone that lived a great distance let alone in another country. But yes I did!

I wasn't even looking for a relationship let alone a long distance one. Not only the distance but the time difference were the hardest things to overcome. But you never know what life has in store for you and up until now I consider myself very fortunate to have met such a wonderful man even if he was on the other side of the world at the time.

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