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Awareness
E-Question: How aware are you of how you react in difficult situations?
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E-Q Responses:

I am usually aware of my behavior but there are times when I don't keep
negative behavior under control, always to my regret. Reacting is just one of my
character defects.

I didn't think I was aware of how I reacted in difficult situations until
I experienced someone who acted incredibly "psycho" ... It was then I
realized my behavior was a magnet and a reflection .... pulling to me those
I didn't desire to be with and showing them my weaknesses that could be
exploited.

Very. Years of volunteer service working hot-lines have enabled me to test myself under very stressful situations. I'm the one you can count on in an emergency. I don't panic, not squeemish around blood, and tend to go right into auto-pilot to respond to needs. I'm very practical and tend to act rather than re-act. I plan ahead so I'm ready for most situations. I'm one of those people who knows where the exit is, how to handle a person who's gone off the deep end, just do what needs to be done.

I'm very aware of how I react in difficult situations. I have had many to deal with for years, and to date. I'm good at it..kinda had to be. Doesn't mean I like it, just means I know how to deal with it...but yes, I know and am very aware of my reactions to a situation. Most of the time I handle it very well, even if it is volatile...there have been a couple of times I got so angry I had to leave...if I had stayed ..who knows what would have happened? I don't like ignorant people nor arrogant, nor self-absorbed people..so when I am having to deal with any of the above idiots, I generally have flames shooting out of my head!! But I win!!!WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!

The More difficult the situation, the calmer, cooler I am.
This would be great, except.........when the crisis is over I fall completely apart???????

I am usually very calm, at least on the outside.

I handle my self very calmly in difficult situations. I stop and think about what can be done. I never get upset.

I'm very aware of my reactions when a difficult situation arises. I'm saying this from experience. When my husband passed away in 92, I found him on the floor of the living room and I just called 911. I did not have time to have reactions until much later when everything settled down and that's when I stopped to do my grieving.

In emotional crisis, I often cry out of frustration or hurt. Once that is released I can deal with the situation more calmly. If it is an emergency or crisis at work I feel very competent to deal with it and handle it calmly. If the emergency is outside of my comfort sphere I freeze up, unsure of how to handle it. I stay out of the way or call for help.

I am aware of how I reacted. For the most part I think I have done well with what has been tossed my way.

To me it depends on how immediate the situation is. If it's something that needs to be dealt with right away, I usually deal with it without thinking about it. If it's an ongoing thing I'm very aware, and try to use all resources to come to a resolution.

I think it depends on the situation as to how I handle it. Soemtimes I fly off the handle; other times I am calm cool and collected, but I get my point across.

Hmmm depends on what the situation is and if it's something that needs attention now. If it is then I will react quickly and fall apart after the fact. If it's not a rush situation, I will think it out first before doing anything

Accidents or injury with my family -- I am a rock -- untill its over, then I needed sedated.

I would consider myself relatively aware to my reaction however, there have been times when I look back and say, "I should have..." Typical I suppose.

If a matter arises abruptly, I'm usually oblivious to behaviour as I do what I need to do. If the matter leaves me with a little time to work it out and I can't get the monkeys (you know, those silly thoughts we have bouncing around in our head) to cooperate. Being single, I lean on my best friend...my sister-in-law. She's soooo good at helping me see things clearly.

Now, if either of my children are badly hurt or bleeding badly...I admit I have a tendancy to slightly panic while tending to them or get them the medical attention them require. But never so much so that they too panic.

I would have to say that if it is with someone I don't know I do fairly well in a difficult situation. I may shake afterwards.. but I realize that I can't do everything where strangers are concerned. But you put me in the same situation with friends or family and I give in way too easily or just all together break down.

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